Stalking is a pattern of behavior directed at a specific person that causes reasonable fear for the person’s safety or the safety of others, or substantial emotional distress. Various tactics may be used, including (but not limited to): unwanted contact, gifts, showing up or approaching an individual or their loved ones, monitoring, surveillance, property damage, and threats. Even though stalking is typically directed at a specific person, stalkers may contact the individual’s family, friends, and/or coworkers as part of their pattern of behavior. Â
What does it look like?Â
- Repeatedly calls or messagesÂ
- Follows you and shows up where you are atÂ
- Sends unwanted gifts, letters, texts, or emailsÂ
- Damages your propertyÂ
- Monitors your phone calls or computer useÂ
- Uses technology to track where you goÂ
- Drives by or waits near your home, school, or workÂ
- Threatens to hurt you, your family, friends, or petsÂ
- Performs other actions that control, track, or frighten youÂ
- Uses other people to try to communicate with you, like children, family, or friendsÂ
Safety Tips Tips for those experiencing stalking: Â
- Trust your instincts. Your safety is paramount. Â
- Alert others. Â
- Keep an incident record or log.Â
- Save evidence. Â
- Plan for your digital safety.Â
- Contact local resources to discuss safety planning. Â
- Contact the police. Â
Tips to support loved ones experiencing stalking:Â Â
- Believe them and validate their feelings and concerns. Â
- Focus on the pattern of behavior. Don’t blame the victim. Â
- Support them, help them document the behavior, and connect them with resources. Â
- Safety plan with them. Â
- Respect their privacy. Â
- Check in. Â
Facts:Â
- Stalking in the United States
- Stalking and Domestic ViolenceÂ
- Stalking and Intimate Partner Violence: Fact SheetÂ
- Stalking and LGBTQ+ IndividualsÂ
For more information and resources about Stalking visit:Â